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As a parent, it is very hard to let go of our beloved children. We always want what is best for them and always try to do whatever we can to help them achieve their dreams.
But sometimes the best way to do this is to walk away.
As a teacher, I am often called upon to help children improve their riding or overcome their fears. Sometimes the biggest problem the children have is their well-meaning parents, who either project their own fears onto their children or interfere with their child’s learning process.
Here are some tips to help your child improve their riding.
1. Be careful what you say around your child
Often when children are having trouble with something or are afraid, they may not say much. That does not mean you should talk non-stop around them and tell everyone about the problems that they are having. And if you are the one having fear issues and are worried your child may get hurt, the worst thing you can do is talk constantly about your fear in front of the child.
Remember whilst your child isn’t saying much, he or she can hear everything you say. What you say will affect how your child thinks. This will only compound the problem.
Always talk in positive terms around your children. Keep your fears to yourself; they have enough of their own without having to carry yours as well.
2. Make Sure You Are Not Projecting Your Feelings Onto Them
Often when parents find it necessary to talk for their child, it is often them reaching out with their own fears, concerns, problems.
If the instructor is asking questions of your child and you keep interrupting, it is your issues that are being verbalized, not necessarily the child's. Make sure you allow the child the opportunity to speak for themselves and give the instructor time to address their issues.
3. The Instructor and the Child Need Time to Create a Bond
I have given students lessons where I have never been able to establish any form of relationship with a child as the parent repeatedly interferes.
All teachers need time to get to know their students on a personal basis; this is the reason so many people prefer private lessons over group lessons as clinics. This relationship is seldom built in one session, nor is it possibly if no meaningful communication can occur between the teacher and the child.
2. Let the instructor do their job
Most of us hate when two people talk to us at once. It makes it hard to focus and deal with the job at hand.
So resist the urge to instruct your child from the sidelines when your instructor is trying to teach.
Your child can not focus on both of you at once. And chances are, as you are the parent, the child will focus on you. This means you are wasting your money paying someone else to do the job.
Even if you don’t personally agree with what the instructor is saying, as long as it is safe, let them do their job, you never know it may just work!
3. Be willing to change
A great friend of mine has a saying “If you keep doing what you are doing, you will keep getting what you are getting”.
If your child is having trouble learning or overcoming a problem, take a step back and look at the issue objectively. Then try to do something differently.
4. Be proud
Even if your child makes the slightest improvement or as the smallest break through, be proud of them. Remember they are trying the best they can!